I’m dating this man, who on many, many counts is really wonderful. He is also extremely clever with humor, and easily silly and good with the come-backs that are hysterically funny. It makes me question his feelings for me, and his comments that I’m so beautiful, and here he’s looking at all these other women. He’s told me many times that he feels that men are envious around him of me. He must have stared at this woman for 10 minutes before he said he wanted a beer.
He’s a very intelligent man, classy, generous, loving and not a womanizer. He gets so caught up in it, even while holding my hand and walking past shops, he’ll head into one, if he sees someone attractive inside. He’s even go so far as to look behind me to see someone again, and has looked long enough many times to make eye-contact. But it’s these long-looks, or just about forgetting that I’m there right next to him, that are really bothering me. I do get looked at often by men, but I don’t make eye contact like he does. I’ve only once made a comment about what he was looking at recently. Other than that, he seems oblivious to his behavior.
Trying to get her full attention will undoubtedly seem a challenge at first. Really no woman is worth the internal anguish she will surely put you through.
That’s hypocritical and it’s no wonder that creates unnecessary tensions in the relationship. By calling him out, you embarrassed him in a passive-aggressive way.That said, let’s first assume a few things: Number 1, let’s assume that everything you said about your guy is true.He really does love you, he really does find you attractive, he really does see a future.To bring this back to you, Karen, it sounds to me like you have a good guy on your hands who has a big blind spot. Yes, he deserved it, but there IS a better way of handling it….Namely, you need to have an emotionless heart-to-heart with him. Instead, find a time when everything’s humming along and say, “I’ve been thinking…” Now you have his attention.