I had no desire to date or anything" during the first two years of parenthood.
Dating as a single mom is a different adventure altogether!
Once you allow your love interest into the same space where you do life with your kids, keep your eyes wide open. Is he patient with your kids, even when they’re not lovable? If the dynamics between your boyfriend and your children aren’t pretty good in the honeymoon phase of their relationships, they won’t be any better down the road.
Some guys are great boyfriends, some are great husbands, and some are even great dads. Is he genuinely concerned with their welfare and happiness? Remember, you’re essentially asking your kids to marry this guy, too. Overwhelmed with the idea of trying to find someone who’s a good match for you your kids?
During my pregnancy, the only man I craved was Justin of the Peanut Butter Cup, but when I finally recovered from my C-section, got into a breastfeeding groove, and felt quasi-human again, I had decided to get back on the market. First of all, my parents and sister helped me so much. I felt extremely liberated by my decision to become a ‘Single Mother by Choice.’ It was (and still is) a great pleasure to talk to new people about the journey. Before we even reached the three-month mark, we survived chronic carsickness, Lyme disease, daily sleep-deprivation and a devastating professional heartbreak (mine). will tell you — so it’s no big surprise that Hazel is a chatterbox. “My daughter started calling my boyfriend ‘Daddy.’ I feel comfortable with it. Was I prepared to release my grip on that autonomy? Now that she’s two, I’m tested more physically than emotionally.
Explain to your boyfriend that this is a significant thing to you (this is sort of the single mom’s version of the DTR: Define the Relationship).
If your children are young, you may be tempted to think you can get away with bending the rules.
We’re here to tell you that you can’t–they remember everything, and it will come back to haunt you in a few years.
Right without allowing the search to negatively impact your children.
Some of our guidelines might seem too restrictive or like too much trouble, but is there really anything that’s “too much trouble” when your kids’ best interests are on the line?