Smith figured it comes down to science: “It probably has something to do with the concentration of the species on procreation,” she quipped.All scientific notions aside, older women opt for younger men for the same reasons that older men select younger women.“The mentality of having a youthful person on your arm who makes you feel good, who makes you feel ageless, makes you feel desired and desirable,” Gibson said.Statistics compiled by AARP The Magazine back up the trend.To her shock and bemusement, there was a new term to describe what she had been doing most of her life — dating younger men.Wheeler, a fiery redhead who lives outside Baltimore, leaned back in her chair and sighed. “I liked younger guys even when I was in high school — like a year or two younger.A whopping 34 percent of women over 40 are dating younger men, according to a 2003 survey.The same poll, which surveyed 3,500 single people (both women and men) aged 40 to 69 years old, found that 56 percent are currently separated or divorced from a spouse, 31 percent have never been married, and seven in 10 (74 percent) of formerly married singles in their 50s have been single for five years or more.
A 70-year-old woman going out with a 40-year-old guy is considered creepy.” Why the double standard?
“They don’t mind at all what age she is as long as she’s vital and gorgeous or something attracts them.
Young men have no fear now of being put down by their peers when there’s cougars like Demi Moore and all these beautiful women around, and they say, ‘My gosh, I would love to bed her!
“They’re looking for companionship, sexual contact, and someone good to talk to and spend time with.
So be it if the relationship goes further.” 'A Badge of Honor' While women aren’t exactly shouting their cougar status from the rooftops (“Women never want to be called a “cougar,” because it implies they’re older,” Mercer explained nonchalantly), men aren’t shy about their relationships with older women.