But there is one thing you do have control over – the ability to get back up and try again. Attract More Women Into Your Life Effortlessly Discover How You Can Get More Dates and Live The Dating Life of Your Dreams With the 69 Tips to Attract, Impress & Get Women E-book Are you tired of staying at home on Friday & Saturday nights? Not even one’s own pain weighs so heavy as the pain one feels with someone, for someone, a pain intensified by the imagination and prolonged by a hundred echoes.” – Milan Kundera.That they are all considered universal eye candy tells you the depth of my issues with validation.Their only criteria, I have come to learn, was that I put out.Years of wearing braces and being the nerd in the back of the class, alongside being absolutely harangued and gutted when I was the laughing stock of my high school class for having the biggest crush on the Australian hottie (who grew up to be a pot bellied underachiever, go figure), meant that I never quite learned how to love myself from a very early age, and somehow, through all the personal successes I was having in terms of my academics and in my professional life, this gap was never addressed, and unfortunately, I was addressing this through men, who, for whatever their personal reasons were, never cared enough about me as a human being, but more about me as an object.What I realized in the process of these dates is that I began to find ways to excuse the most deplorable behavior- missed dates, being stood up, being cheated on, to even being physically abused by one man who thought that there was “great evil” inside of me because I didn’t want him to live with me.
Things turned to a head when, last November, I was attending an Emerging Leaders program at Harvard, where, in a group of 64 participants, only a handful of women were present.) over, I had to hear about how “in our society, we really don’t do these things,” as though my entire experience of being an adult is nullified because I don’t have a spouse or a boyfriend.After November, I was led again to believe I had found “the one” when I met a man, who to this date, has spent almost a year oscillating between telling me how much I mean to him, to irrevocably normalizing each circumstance when he pushed me away. Sometimes you think you have gotten close to where you want to be and then instantly get dumped out of your spot. You simply cannot have success with anything, including women, if you give up and stop trying. Sometimes that date, relationship, or woman doesn’t come easy, but following are some things to remember when you feel like giving up. If you really feel like giving up, remind yourself that if you do – success is not going to come.