But the good news is you can rebuild them and find new ones assuming you’re willing to put in the work. A lot of people assume that having healthy relationships means being more impressive, or being more attractive, or being right all the time.
And actually, this constant desire to to the people around you actually gets in the way.
A successful relationship is built around letting go.
It’s about giving up control, giving up the need to be loved or wanted or right all the time. And it took me many years and tears and failures to figure out.
There's nothing wrong with the expectation list growing. I remember a religion teacher once told the class, "if you don't fight with your spouse, then you are lying to each other." I found that there's so much truth to this phrase.I mean, there aren't two people in this world that can spend life together and agree on every single aspect of life. How we communicate the disagreement is always the problem.Doing it wrong will lead you down the path of disappointment, discouragement and resentment. These questions plague us right after a bad argument happens.We don't intentionally want to hurt our partners so we can figure this stuff out. But I can review the wrongs and make rights for the future.But if you "date" others and your partner expects "relationship'ing" then this inevitably leads to disaster, loss of trust, resentment, anger, betrayal, etc. So I guess, I'll start off with the 3 simple words with the next person who makes it past the wall and into my life.