"It’s a testament to why we’re all better off when we own who we are and are comfortable with who we are.” Those looking for introverts, Hartman says, can try a few strategies, such as watching out for quiet or short profiles, hobbies that introverts tend to gravitate toward, or a photo that doesn't give away much about his or her appearance.Many introverts experience an initial hesitancy to sign up for an online dating website, but Hartman says that discomfort goes away quickly."[Introverts are] one-on-one in the email stage and on a date.They don’t have to worry about being at a dinner party, talking to eight people, figuring out how to look charming,” she said. She maintains that online dating can work for introverts in ways offline dating doesn't.
"That’s a lot to ask for someone who’s introverted, especially in an area already outside of his comfort zone," Hartman said.Five results came up, one of which ended up becoming his wife.“He shared the online profile his future wife had written, and you could see she was so charming and soulful in an introverted way," Cain said.Hartman said the key to feeling comfortable is to focus on making the other person feel the same. "Try to meet people partway and if it feels nerve-wracking, don’t focus on your own feelings of discomfort. That’s the backwards irony of all this: They’re so focused on their own feelings.If they focus on making others feel comfortable, they’ll feel comfortable, too.” Not getting enough out of a conversation — or worse, waiting for a message — can be a sign that two people don't share the same communication style.