Mallory Ortberg, aka Dear Prudence, is online weekly to chat live with readers. (Sign up below to get Dear Prudence delivered to your inbox each week. He cheated, but my behavior was worse: I’ve been with my boyfriend for over 10 years. There is a complete and total breakdown of trust in your relationship, and you two do not belong together.
We have a great relationship with normal ups and downs over the years. There is no healthy, sustainable love story that includes “I knew he was cheating, but he wouldn’t admit it, so after going through his phone, I falsified medical information to get him to confess and now everything’s great.” What you could, and should, have done when you became convinced he was cheating, even if he was not willing to admit it, was end the relationship.
That can come later; don’t make him wonder what you’re trying to talk to him about.
Start by telling your boyfriend that you want to break up, that you love him and that this relationship has meant a lot to you, but that you don’t see yourself together in the long run and you’re ready to move on. : My husband’s terrific brother, “Dave,” cherished his wife, “Connie,” and nursed her loyally through the cancer battle that claimed her life last year.
He can reach out to anyone in his life who isn’t you for support, but it’s your job to make the break clean and give him space to move on.
By virtue of breaking up with him, you have rendered yourself uniquely incapable of being emotionally supportive while he goes through the process of getting dumped.Or can I just go somewhere “less complicated” for my hair styling from now on?I hate processing, and I actually don’t want to stress her out more about her wedding. A: You do not have to tell your hairdresser anything if you’d rather just quietly find someone else.(They are telling the restaurant it’s just a party and not a wedding so they don’t get charged “wedding” rates.) I am really heartbroken.I spent a lot of time and energy and money buying a special candy mold and gluten-free flour, etc.