In fact, this really applies to most occasions but birthdays in particular because they’re personal.If it’s your birthday and you start NC and they don’t get in touch and it’s only been a short time since starting NC, you may feel compelled to tell them all about themselves or go attention seeking.The more the person is forced to think about their actions; the better chance they have to realize what they are doing is a result of their illness.The most common response I get to this line of thinking is “I can’t be harsh to my friend/loved one”.If it’s their birthday, you may feel “bad” about not being in touch.
Some of these ‘occasions’ are symbols of aspects of your ex that form part of your connection which in turn you attach a meaning to.
The person CANNOT go this route without repercussions.
It’s been clearly stated, they know what will happen otherwise, and these types of anchors can actually pierce through the turmoil by forcing an unwell person to stop and think about their actions.
I’m going to give some examples of what I’m talking about.
It would be impossible for me to include a comprehensive listing; but if you have a specific situation you would like some input on, email me. *I have a friend who calls me incessantly to the point that it fills my voice mail and even cost my a job interview. “All friendships and relationships have boundaries and you are overstepping ours.